Let’s be honest—introducing a new baby to an older sibling can feel like completely uncharted territory. That’s because it is! Every child reacts differently, and every family dynamic is unique. Adjust to a new sibling can be difficult for them.
Even though I haven’t personally experienced this transition in my own family, I’ve had the privilege of watching many clients go through this season. And let me tell you—it’s a beautiful, emotional, sometimes chaotic, and always meaningful chapter.
Over the years, I’ve seen big siblings proudly hold their baby brother one minute and sneak off with their pacifier the next. It’s all part of the process. The good news? With a little prep and a lot of love, you can help make adjusting to a new sibling a smoother experience for everyone involved.
Here are 6 ways to help your older child prepare for their new role:
1. Read Books About Becoming a Sibling
Books are a great way to start the conversation. Titles like “I’m a Big Sister“ or “I’m a Big Brother“ by Joanna Cole are easy for kids to connect with. Reading together not only builds understanding but gives your child space to ask questions and share how they feel.
2. Involve Them in Baby Prep
Let your older child help decorate the nursery or choose a special gift for the baby. This makes them feel included and important. When kids get to contribute to the baby’s arrival, it helps build excitement (and a little ownership) over this big change.
3. Keep the Conversation Open
Talk often. Ask them how they’re feeling. Reassure them that it’s okay to feel a mix of emotions. The more they know it’s safe to express themselves, the more supported they’ll feel during this transition.
4. Give Them Jobs After Baby Arrives
Let them “help” with small tasks like picking out the baby’s outfit or singing a lullaby. These small responsibilities make a big difference in helping them feel connected to their new sibling. It’s also a sweet way to create early bonding moments. This is one of my favorite ways to help kids adjust to a new sibling.
5. Schedule One-on-One Time
This one is big. Your older child still needs dedicated time with you. Whether it’s a simple ice cream date, a trip to the playground, or reading their favorite book together before bed, those moments will remind them they’re still just as loved.
Black Rock Park is the perfect place to spend one on one time with your kids!
6. Keep Their Routine Steady
Amid all the newness, routines can bring comfort. Try to keep bedtime rituals, favorite meals, and daily traditions consistent. Familiarity helps them feel grounded, even when everything else feels different.
Final Thoughts on Adjusting to a New Sibling
At the end of the day, this is a season of major change—and major love. With patience, intention, and a little preparation, your firstborn can feel proud and excited about their new role.
And if you want to capture these first sweet interactions between big sibling and baby, I’d love to help document it for you.
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